What does it mean to control?
in life, can you do so?
We all have the ability to know ourselves well enough to control certain aspects of ourselves but can you truly control everything? (there are so many outward element that play a part in our lives)
No.
Mostly there is supression or escapism that gives the illusion of control.
Find the root.
What's making things surface that are normally supressed or dodged?
Look it directly in the face and either overcome or walk away. Don't hide.
Most of us dwell on our past so much so that we can't enjoy the now or look to the future.
why do we do this?
Have we not gleaned what was necessary from those experiences?
You can't walk forward if you're looking backwards without falling flat.
Yes, those experiences and people have helped in shaping us into who we are but you still have the cards in your hands to make the next move in the game.
Discard those you don't need and keep those that are still of value to the ending win.
Along the way these cards may change.
is in your heart to fold, bluff, or call?
what risk are you willing to take?
never knowing, faking it, or standing firm?
chew on that for a while.